Episode #8 Raising Boys In a Culture Who are Trying to Conform Them
Listen in today on a topic my guest speaker and I have some thoughts and challenges about! Today’s guest speaker is my fabulous husband Darren Rice, and we have been processing some of the differences between Biblical manhood and how the culture views it.
We hope you are encouraged and would love to continue the conversation, we are always growing and learning and pray that God would lead our discussions.
Here are some notes from todays podcast:
We always are talking about purposefully raising our kids, what we are teaching them, what values they are learning, and how we are fulfilling our roll as parents.
Biblically… what we are responsible for ….
This is significant with both genders, we have been blessed so far with one little girl and three little boys.
I think more and more we live in a society where it becomes more and more challenging to raise not just children in a bibilical way but also specifically men and women of God.
As a Man and as the Father, the head of our household the responsibility of this is to lead my family in a biblical way. Thank you God for being the source of strength I need, because its sure not of my own doing.
Today we are talking specifically about BOYS, raising boys to be men of God.
Again today it is so sad to see gender treated as such an ambiguous thing, and so sad to see negative expressions against the uniqueness that God made men and women to have. Two major lies bother me that we see frequently
- Boys should act like girls, be calm, sensitive, show their emotions in the same way, sit still, on and on.
- Boys will be boys, guys are dumb, beer, sports, lazy, self centered
We can be bothered by both of these things for many reasons but specifically I am bothered by both because they are not an accurate picture of how God created us, and how we should conduct ourselves as Men, but yet these are the examples that our boys are seeing all around them and the standards they are being held to by the general society around us.
God created boys to grow into men for a specific purpose,
1 Timothy 6
11 But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness. 12 Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses.
2 Timothy 1
6 For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. 7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 8 So do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord or of me his prisoner. Rather, join with me in suffering for the gospel, by the power of God. 9 He has saved us and called us to a holy life—not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace. This grace was given us in Christ Jesus before the beginning of time,
1 Timothy 3
2 Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, 3 not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. 4 He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full[a] respect. 5 (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)
23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church
I am challenged to reject the ideas that our society teaches us about gender, about how men are not as smart or responsible as women, and how they are just going to be irresponsible.
The energy, courage, and focus that our Boys have must be trained and directed.
When I am thinking about applying these things and teaching how to be a Man of God to my boys, only ages 2 and 3 right now. I am challenged to engage the heart and the actions together. For example it isn’t just about the actions of cleaning up or clearing the table
Its not just about the action of holding the door for someone else.
It’t not just the action of caring for another person, loving them.
A fool is quick tempered, but a wise man stays calm when insulted.” -Proverbs 12:16
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves,” -Philippians 2:3
“My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” -James 1:19
It is so important that as we are raising our boys we build up the biblical role, responsibility, that they are made for. As fathers we are responsible for modeling and building up a heart after God, a Mans heart that has conviction, that serves God and their Family.
I try to think about this, and apply simple things, simple conversations about the reason behind actions, building the heart behind their service
Also teaching them how to treat their sister, and their brothers.
Also emphasizing and building up how their sister treats them, respect, letting them lead sometimes even though they are younger,