Do you feel displaced? Or that you are unsure of where or how to serve?
As a mother of 5 littles I find myself with the desire to serve and share the gospel with others. Which are both Godly desires, BUT they can come at a cost to my mindset when I fell like because I am a stay at home mother I am failing at that calling. I can find myself fixated on finding “my place” or fulfilling my “Christian Responsibility” to the extent that I have misled myself into believing those tasks HAVE to happen outside of my family.
Literally, I am staring at my greatest mission field when I look into the eyes of my young ones, and somehow I have convinced myself that I am “needed” else where. And while there is truth to the need of my unique talent and skills else where I AM MISSING my greatest calling to my family when I let that “need” surpass my calling to raise my family! Can I do both, love my family and love others? ABSOLUTELY! But we must remember that when we devalue our role as a mother we can neglect our responsibility/role to teach the gospel to our children.
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.
I ask myself, “when did I let the world’s ideas of what is most important invade my mind?!” It has become apparent that in society today children do not rank high on the “list of important things.” In fact, we have decided it is more important to go to college than have children, the ability to travel is more important than having children, the opportunity to move up the corporate ladder is more important than having children. Society says, do you want to be able to go and do as you please: well, that is more important than having and raising children. The list goes on and on, we have as a society forgotten the reward and blessing that comes from having and raising children. And because of this cultural influence we have created a mindset where being a mother (and especially at SAHM) is the ROCK BOTTOM job a woman can have.
But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine. Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled …
Motherhood is not a hobby; it is a calling. It is not something to do if you can squeeze in the time. You represent everything that our culture hates, because you are laying down your life for another and just like Jesus laid down His life for us, you fellow momma are laying down your life for your children WHICH represents the gospel. We are the walking gospel to our kids. We might be, through our parenting, preparing our kids hearts to see the greatest sacrifice of all: JESUS CHRIST!
Motherhood is a calling, it is a privilege, and while it may look different for each of us due to our personal convictions and situations, what we MUST remember is God has given us this calling not to be viewed at as less than, rock bottom or unimportant! Child training is a mission field! Motherhood is a beautiful area to serve and teach the Gospel. When the culture says the role of Motherhood is second choice to real life, we need to stare culture back in the face and tell it: I do this for the eternal lives of my littles! You are not displaced, you are not left out, you are where God has placed you in a role that is of the utmost importance!
Fellow momma you are doing the LORDS work!