It has been 4 months now of the kids and I volunteering at Echo Horse Ranch. This is a rescue ranch for horses that have had abuse or neglect in their past. It was important to Darren and I to find something for our kids to serve and learn hard work at, and Echo Ranch turned out to be the perfect place. This is a church ministry from a local church where they believe in redemption and use the recovery of the horses to illustrate a redemptive story each one of us can have through Jesus Christ. You will see in our vlog below the different responsibilities we do while we are there and hear about some of the blessings and thanks they give to us for volunteering. This whole adventure has been a wonderful gift to our family: hope you enjoy!
Redemptive Discipline

Redemptive Discipline

The first time I heard this expression was when I was attending BSF as women’s bible study that also had a nursery, preschool, and homeschool areas where they would teach the bible concept the moms were learning too. A wonderful time I had in this program, and this is where I heard the expression, “Redemptive Discipline.”
The name redemptive strikes the heart of believers because it represents salvation from sin, and we know the only way one can be redeemed is through the saving power of Jesus Christ (Ephesians 1:7). We tend to see one of two ways when it comes to discipline (or one could also say discipleship) and that is either moralistic behaviorism or gospel-centered application, we will dive into those in a moment. But before we do, please know dear friend that just as there is grace given to our children there is also grace to you, so please read these words (as I reflect on them daily as well) and be encouraged not condemned.
If you have spent any amount of time in the parenting relm you might have heard encouragement from others saying, make sure you get your child’s heart. To me this has always and continues to feel like a very BIG task. I find inside my brain I am repeatedly ask myself: how do I win my child’s heart, and when will I know that I have won my child’s hear? I do have to confess what I have found in my own years of learning and listening to others that it is through intentionally and consistently pursuing them, BUT IN THE RIGHT WAY. Today we will be looking at one of the key ways we can go wrong as parents when we turn our children into moralistic behaviorism robots instead of pointing them to Jesus and the redemption He offers when our children sin. Lets dive in:

1. Moralism cannot reach a child’s heart.
When it comes to Moralism and moral thinking, we tend to forget Romans 3:23 for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God! We cannot teach our kids out of sin, they will have sin and will struggle with sin. Just ask yourself, do you still struggle with sin at times? The truth is for the rest of our lives we will struggle at times but through redemption in Christ we are being transformed into a new creation which through HIS power abiding in HIM are able to address our sinful hearts, THROUGH HIM to be eternally saved and daily sanctified. There are plenty of ways we try to teach morality, we can even use the bible characters we to show a moral lesson. But when we try to make kids into good rule-keepers, they tend to either do one of two things: they can individually earn God’s favor (and or parents favor and love) through their GOOD BEHAVIOR or they see they will never be able to keep the rules and conclude there’s no use trying, and ultimately turn away from the faith because they think it is pointless. And sadly, both of these options are missing the WAY TO GRACE is through CHRIST ALONE, not of our own works do not one can boost.
What we ultimately see is that moralism, being a good rule follower, and people pleaser results in pride and fear in the heart of a child. Remembering that obedience in outward behavior doesn’t mean that a inner change has happened through Jesus Christ. The power of the Gospel changes us from the inside out.
2. Manipulation cannot reach a child’s heart.
This word: Manipulation, is a harsh one but as parents (if we are honest) we have done this many of times. How many times have we said something like, “I can’t believe you just did that, you should be ashamed of yourself,” or “Look at Suzy and she is behaving, why aren’t you behaving like her,” or “We just learned at church about this why are you not listening.” Even still have you ever used God to manipulation behavior by saying things like, “God doesn’t like it when you do that.” It is true God doesn’t like sin and isn’t happy when we sin BUT are we using it as a tool for training to produce guilt, and manipulate our kids to have the outward actions we want them to have? While truth needs to be spoken what is the heart of the parent when they are speaking truth, is it to get a behavior they want to see or is it to point our kids towards Jesus and the gift He gives us? We must point out sin, because if we believe we have no sin then do we need a savior? But EQUALLY IMPORTANT we have to show the GOSPEL, and God’s loving plan for his people to be redeemed through Christ. Even while we were still sinners Christ died for us! Manipulation can only produce guilt, shame, or anger in a child’s heart, BUT the gospel can create inner change, TRUE AND LASTING CHANGE.
Does that mean we shouldn’t train our children in what things are right? Absolutely NOT. Hebrew 12:10 says: They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. So YES, we absolutely need to and show train our children. God does that for us as well, which we can see is truly a lovely attribute of God, and reminds us that we also need to discipline with the heart of love towards our children.
3. We reach a child’s heart for Christ through the gospel.
1 Corinthians 15:3–4: “For I delivered to you as of first importance what I also received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures.” The Gospel is the MOST IMPORTANT truth we can teach our children. The truth of the gospel is we are sinners and there is literally NOTHING we can do to EARN grace. And we are saved through GRACE ALONE, through FAITH ALONE, by CHRIST ALONE, and we know this ACCORDING TO SCRIPTURE ALONE all for THE GLORY OF GOD ALONE. Gospel-centered teaching shows that God uses people who are weak and broken. just like in the Bible characters we used to teach moral lessons we can use them as well to show they are imperfect, just like us. And God did not choose Noah, Moses, and David (for example), because of their character but because of His grace, the same grace He offers us today. God knows who we are, remember He sent His son to die for us WHILE WE WERE STILL SINNERS. His love for us doesn’t change when we fail, He knows we will fail (for all have sinned!). God reaches a child’s heart with the truth of the gospel. The Gospel transforms your child’s heart whereas in manipulation and moralism are used to harden the hearts of our children. God in His ultimate wisdom has given us the perfect tool for parenting: the gospel. The gospel is what creates inner heart change, and eternal importance. Remember the Gospel is not just for unbelievers but believers as well because when we fix our eyes on the gospel, we are fixing our eyes on Jesus. The good news, the redemption plan is for us parents as well as our children.

Truths to hold on to:
God wants to change our hearts for eternity, NOT behavior for a moment. As parents we must be thinking past the moment and ask ourselves “is this eternal, and what can I do to train towards the eternal heart not the momentary behavior,” (we must think big picture in the little moments,) when we only have so little time with our children we must be encouraged to look at each opportunity as a moment to share the gospel with out children, but correction and training with the gospel in mind.
Redemptive discipline (growth-oriented) asks how I can help this child love God and love others. Result-oriented discipline makes children think that they can earn God’s approval and acceptance with good behavior. The gospel teaches them that they can NOT earn God’s approval or favor through their good works or good behavior but ONLY through Jesus Christ alone.
First time obedience is not wrong to expect from our children BUT WE CAN’T LEAVE IT AT OUTWARD ACTION. If our children are obedient that does NOT mean we have won their heart and it does NOT mean they have given their lives to following Christ. I say this as a reminder to myself and others to encourage us that obedience is NOT THE END GOAL. While important for safety and training, it NEEDS to be accompanied ALWAYS with the Gospel. In our home we strive to have obedience look like: 1, right away, first time obedience, 2, all the way obedience, it is not obeying if it is only part way, and 3, obedience must be done with a happy heart, to submit and respect the one giving the instruction. These things are not bad in principle or action, if fact they are very important for training our kids but when we miss the FOUNDATION for which those principles should be laid on (THE GOSPEL) then we are building on shaking ground, not a firm foundation. Obedience is important and our kids learn to obey out of love for their parents just like they will continue when they have saving faith to obey God out of love for Him. Lest us no forget that our main goal as parents is to point our children to Christ.

Lead with Love and Grow with Grace
I hope this was encouraging, it is a mindset of eyes focused on the eternal, and a reminder to always live with the Gospel in mind, hearts focused on Christ, remembering it is ALL FOR HIS GLORY!
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6 Months Living in a Trailer and Now What?
We have officially made it 6 months (183 days) of living in our trailer. If you would have asked me 6 months ago if I thought it was possible for our family of 7 to make it with our sanity in tack, living in a trailer for 6 months I would have not thought it was possible, but here I stand corrected.
Has it been hard, YES! But, hard is not bad, instead I have seen the joy, contentment, family relationships, and simplicity rise from this new living situation. Our trailer is housed on our friends property which is probably the biggest blessing to be found in this who situation. For us to be able to receive the generosity and true example of caring for those in your community. SUCH A BLESSING!
Here are a few things that have REALLY stood out to us during these last 6 months:
Some days feel incredibly normal and other days feel cramped.
Out of the 180 plus days some start to feel normal and easy but then all of a sudden a day will come when we long to not be cramped and back in a house of our own. Some weeks I will turn to Darren and say, “Wow, 6 months have gone so fast we could totally do this another 6 months.” And then as if some funny joke the next day I will turn to Darren and say, “I won’t make it another 6 months.” But isn’t that just how life is – filled with ebbs and flows. You have some days you win and some days you lose but thankful for Gods grace and that His mercies are new every morning. It is ok to recognize the hardships but not dwell on them, keeping your focus and mindset on things above creates moments of joy instead of dread.
No days off when it comes to organization!
When we were living in our home prior to moving into the trailer, I could easily delay putting things away, organization, dishes, laundry, etc. But when you move from 1500 sq ft to 300 sq ft (a combination of trailer and cottage), if you neglect any in the moment cleaning or organization you FEEL IT! You can imagine with me cooking and eating for a family of 7 without a dishwasher you simply have to do the dishes after every meal or else you have a mess and no dishes for the next meal. But it also extends past that as well into other areas of the trailer, if we don’t put away clothes, toys out in their places, or simply take out the trash you can start to feel like your space is closing in on you. So we have learned there is no days off when it comes to putting things away and organizing our things. This is a lesson we are constantly teaching ourselves and kids and one we hope will continue on into our new space (one day.)
Being close together grows relationship and closeness.
My friend gave me this sign to put up in our cottage space which truly reflects what we have learned and experienced during these last 6 months living in close quarters, it says, “Love grows best in little houses, with fewer walls to separate. Where you eat and sleep so close together you can’t help but communicate. and if we had more room between is, think of all we’d miss. Love grows best in houses just like this.” We personally have found so much closeness being created from the mere fact we are forced into togetherness. While you will see in the section below this has also brought about more training, there has come with a lot of positiveness as well. One funny thing we have noticed is that when we go to our parents houses and give the kids free range of the house to play, but when we will turn around we see all the kids are literally playing side by side, even though the space is limitless they have grown accustom to playing next to each other.
We have experienced that there has been way more opportunity to train and correct our kids.
As I alluded to previously the closeness has brought many, MANY opportunities to train and correct our kids. Darren and I passionate about trying to find the blessing in being able to see our kids sin and correct them on it. We view it as a blessing because if we didn’t see the sin, we wouldn’t have the opportunity to expose and correct them on it, thus creating perpetual sin and habit-forming sin. Simple proximity to each other has given us the opportunity to see and train on more in our children’s lives. This is a lot of work, and it is hard and exhausting at times but SO, SO important, to which we have been grateful for the opportunity to bring more awareness to issues we didn’t know before.
So where do we go from here? What is the plan next? This is a GREAT question and one we get asked a lot! So here is the simple answer: we don’t know. I mean we have ideas and plans and prayers of what will transpire but we are holding all of those dreams with hands open to where God leads us. Right now, we are in the final stages to close on our building loan, we are excited about finally breaking ground on our property in Idaho and hope that once ground breaks we will be able to move in there between 6 months to a year. (That seems so long but we are just not sure with all the world crisis situations how that will affect our building). In the meantime we are 2 weeks away from our first camping trip of the year. Yes, I know we literally living in our trailer so we are daily camping haha, but our goal is to go see some other places and create memories of this time in our trailer that extends past our current location. Here is some of the destinations on the docket:
March – Seaside, Oregon (1 week)
April – Bend, Oregon (1 week)
May – Washington tour (2 weeks)
June – Eastern Idaho (1 week)
July – Eastern Idaho (1 week) and Darren and I are doing a solo trip to the San Juan Islands, WA (1 Week)
August – California Redwoods, Lake Tahoe, and Yosemite (3 weeks)
September – Tour through ID, UT, NV, AZ (3 weeks)
(We do think with these trips it will make the next 6 months go by quickly, and hopefully during this time we will see our house build progress.)
We are excited to share our adventures both here on the blog and on our YouTube and Rumble accounts so make sure you subscribe to follow along on the journey.
It is going to be an adventure! We are excited!
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Homemade Ranch
In our household Ranch is a staple for mealtime. We used to buy premade Hidden Valley Ranch dressing, then progressed to the Hidden Valley Ranch dressing dry mix pack. This obsession with Ranch has driven us to create our very own Ranch Mix. We are excited to share with you the different ways we enjoy using our Ranch Mix as well as how we have created a better version (both in depth of flavor and preservative free) of Ranch Dressing and Dip.
As we have developed our understanding of the importance of what we put in our bodies, we have discovered that homemade truly allows you to know what you are putting in your body. In our mixes we sell at our family farm Heritage Home Family Farm we pride ourselves on avoiding ingredients that are harmful to our bodies. Basically, everything we create we feed to our own family and if it isn’t something we want our kids to have then we will not put it in our mixes.
The ingredients within our Ranch mix will not surprise you and you will be able to read them all, we even grow some of the herbs on our family farm. Truly farm to table, homemade with ease is our mission.
Ok, now to the fun part! We already showed how fast and easy it is to make Ranch dressing and Ranch Dips, here are some other amazing uses for this mix:
- Baked Breaded Ranch Chicken: Simply add 4 TBS of our Ranch Mix with 1 cup of unseasoned breadcrumbs into a gallon sized sealable bag, add 3 Pounds of cut raw chicken into the bag, shake well to make sure even coating, then Bake chicken on ungreased baking pan at 375°F for 50 minutes or until juices run clear or an internal temperature of 165°F.
- Ranch Toasted Bread: Spread the butter and then sprinkle the Ranch Mix evenly on the bread halves. Place under the broiler for 2–3 minutes, until golden and the butter begins to seep and bubble. Serve hot.
- Creamy Ranch Beef Noodles: In a small bowl mix together 18oz of sour cream, 1/2 cup milk, 2 TBS of the Ranch mix, stir together and set to side. Cook bag of egg noodles, while noodles are boiling in a separate pan cook ground beef (about 1 pound). Mix all three parts together (mixture, noodles, and meat) then serve and enjoy.
- Ranch Salmon: Simply place the salmon in an oiled 13 x 9 baking dish. Spread the Ranch Mix evenly over the top. (Use amount to your taste and number of salmons you have. Bake uncovered for about 10 to 15 minutes or until fish is opaque and flakes easily when tested with fork.
- Ranch Roasted Potato Wedges: Preheat 425 degrees, combine 5 TBS of the Ranch Mix, 1/4 teaspoon salt and 1/4 cup Parmesan cheese in a gallon-size resealable bag. Cut 3 Russet potatoes into wedges, and cover in melted butter (about 3 tablespoon) then add into the resealable bag and mix around to coat with the mixture. Lay the wedges, flat side down, on baking sheet, bake for 20 minutes. Turn wedges over and bake for another 20 minutes, or until golden brown. Serve with Ranch Dip 🙂
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Addicting Chicken Dip: In a large mixing bowl, stir the cream cheese (8oz), sour cream (1 cup), and Ranch Mix (4 TBS) together until well blended. Cook 4 pieces of bacon. Fold in the cooked shredded chicken (1 1/2 cup), shredded cheddar cheese (1 1/2 cup) and ¾ of the bacon. Top with remaining bacon crumbles. Refrigerate until ready to serve or serve immediately with chips, vegetables or bread.

Also use Ranch Mix in:
- As seasoning in Chicken Noodle Soup
- On top of eggs for breakfast
- Use as seasoning on Chicken, and fish
- Yummy on baked vegetables
- Use in Tuna or Chicken salad mixes with Mayo
- Rub on Whole Chicken or Turkeys with butter.
Our Ranch Mix is Gluten Free, Dairy Free, MSG Free, and No added preservatives.
GET YOURS HERE!

ENJOY! And let us know what you use it on 🙂





















